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Re: zz: Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber

Post by 幻儿 » 2018-10-11 12:43

我说“物伤其类”的意思就是,好多中间派的法官都觉得Kavanaugh 需要对高中时期的行为做解释有点过格了(他们觉得Ford的指控不到attempted rape的程度,更像是小孩打闹)。

这也不算是“官官相护”吧,有点像最近一些中国籍教授/学者/科学家被指控间谍罪,好多做类似工作的中国人虽然觉得自己并没有任何可以被指摘的地方,但也未免人心惶惶,而且就算是有些同胞的做法有待商榷,但如此大动干戈(间谍罪!)还是过了。

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Re: zz: Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber

Post by 唐唐的郁金香 » 2018-10-12 12:46

今天Celeste Ng给thecut写了一篇文章:
https://www.thecut.com/2018/10/when-asi ... n-men.html

在中文社交媒体上见多了(男)人对和外族通婚(女)的谩骂,原来英文世界也有,连Celeste Ng这样的有名文化人也无一例外会遭到打击谩骂,扣上“race traitor"的帽子。都是女人的错,反种族歧视的皮、男权至上的心,用的语言("race genocide")和白人种族至上者是同一套。但是,同样的人往往以date白女为荣,也不担心种族灭绝了。

在toxic masculinity的大环境下,怪女人可以说是很容易的选择了,毕竟离红颜祸国、三从四德的年代也不远。

Celeste Ng的Little Fires Everywhere很好看,结构有点像Big Little Lies,也要被拍成电视剧了。主要是两个女主的对手戏,中间一群teenagers。而且,她的书内容很当代,改变了华裔女作家写书都得写成谭恩美的刻板印象。
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Re: zz: Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber

Post by Jun » 2018-10-12 17:52

可不是,男权社会里处处特权而不自知。以前我听见看上去知书达理的还算正常的普通男性说,你们女人权利已经超过我们了,还惊诧莫名,现在知道了,他们是真心相信不是开玩笑的。When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

我的一个好朋友,她老公多年投票给民主党,忽然摇身一变成了川粉,我朋友简直气死了。根本原因就是他觉得女人权力太大都爬到男人头上了,遇到这种masculinity 感到威胁的人没法跟他讲理,跟他说压迫你的是资本家不是女性,是听不进去的。
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Post by Knowing » 2018-11-02 11:13

Google staff walk out over women's treatment
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-46054202
Nevertheless, she persisted.

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Post by Jun » 2018-11-02 11:37

Knowing wrote:Google staff walk out over women's treatment
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-46054202

:admir002: :applaudit02:
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Post by april » 2018-11-02 20:50

Google employees and contractors participate in global “walkout for real change”
两万人,全球五十个城市!只有不到五天时间准备!组织能力一流! :admir002: :admir002:

五条诉求也很有意思。这两天狂补劳工法和强制调停...
An end to Forced Arbitration in cases of harassment and discrimination.
A commitment to end pay and opportunity inequity.
A publicly disclosed sexual harassment transparency report.
A clear, uniform, globally inclusive process for reporting sexual misconduct safely and anonymously.
A commitment to elevate the Chief Diversity Officer to answer directly to the CEO and make recommendations directly to the Board of Directors. And, to appoint an Employee Representative to the Board.
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Post by Jun » 2018-11-04 21:19

前两天佛州的一家瑜伽馆被持枪白男攻击,打死两个女人,伤好几个。凶手是个 incel。

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/fl ... be-n931036

我有个理论,不是内部矛盾激化到一定程度会打起来吗?其实美国现在的状况已经是变相的内战了,越来越多的白男枪杀“敌人”,只是没有正式的组织成军队罢了。
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Post by Jun » 2018-11-30 23:08

迈阿密号角报前天出的长篇调查报告,被我非常偶然地撞上了。可能因为最近新闻太多太火爆而被淹没了,也可能因为不是全国性大报,但内容确实很火爆。报道的主角是 Jeffrey Epstein,这个名字我之前耳朵有刮到但是不知详情,原来他长期给有权有势的好朋友们拉皮条,他的 sex trafficking ring 的生意规模相当不小,受害者包括很多未成年的女孩子。他的朋友们有多么有权有势呢?Bill Clinton 和 Donald Trump 都是他的“朋友”,经常光顾他的庄园,当他终于被警方盯上的时候,给他辩护的律师包括哈佛大学的著名法学教授 Alan Dershowitz 以及 Ken Starr ,起诉他的联邦检察官(实际上包庇了他)是川皇任命的劳工部长 Alex Acosta。

https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/ ... 97825.html

我自己也刚看了个开头,等我看完了明天来慢慢地复述。
“I don’t think anyone has been told the truth about what Jeffrey Epstein did,’’ said one of Epstein’s victims, Michelle Licata, now 30. “He ruined my life and a lot of girls’ lives. People need to know what he did and why he wasn’t prosecuted so it never happens again.”
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Post by Knowing » 2018-12-01 3:16

Jeffrey Epstein 很有臭名的!他是个财富管理人,喜欢未成年少女,经常举行盛大派对,给其他有钱人拉皮条。06年警方调查他的时候,发现他的公寓里装了很多隐藏的摄像头,用来录他的朋友和未成年少女的录像,日后敲诈勒索。08年被定罪引诱未成年少女卖淫,被判十八个月。他在英国就有名,几年前有个女孩出来控告十七岁时经他介绍跟安德鲁王子发生关系。大选的时候有女人出来控告她未成年时被Epstein 介绍给川普,发生关系。
他不恋幼童,喜欢的是十五六七的少女,比较接近成年女性的体态而具有犯罪禁忌的刺激性,所以受众比较广,很多有钱有势人并无特殊嗜好的也会觉得很刺激来试一试。所以才能跟那么多人拉上关系。
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Re: zz: Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber

Post by Jun » 2018-12-20 14:21

后知后觉大惊小怪地跳上来说,Neil deGrasse Tyson 也被指控性骚扰甚至药迷强暴女性!

https://www.vox.com/identities/2018/12/ ... ley-watson

可惜,我一直都挺喜欢他讲课的。What is WRONG with men?!
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Post by Knowing » 2018-12-21 8:08

uh! I am so disappointed. I really liked Neil deGrasse Tyson too.
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Post by Knowing » 2019-01-11 3:35

最近纪录片surviving R Kelly 引起非常大反响. 我还没看, 英国没有。前两年看过一点新闻报道说R Kelly run a sex cult, 好几个少女的父母哭诉孩子留在那里不出来. R Kelly 的前妻上电视访谈, 说自己被暴力对待的经历, 以前一直没有发声, 直到看见另一个受害者哭诉经历跟自己惊人的相似. 她说我出声时要让那个女性也被相信.
讲句不太好听的实话, 我们都是社会产品. 女性未必比男性更有empathy, 更无私.但是这些'奉献型'品质被社会一直定义为女性品质, 母性品质, 我们就会觉得拿这些品质衡量自己更重要. #metoo appeals to that, 为自己出声要求公平会被质疑羞辱. 但是为common good, 为声援其他受害者, 为防止更多人受害而出声, 很多女性会愿意.
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Post by Knowing » 2019-01-15 2:20

metoo 时期吉列剃须刀的新广告:We Believe: The Best Men Can Be . 很赞.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koPmuEy ... e=youtu.be


马上有人怒骂这是feminist propaganda, 必需boycott. 其中就有名人, 嘲笑邦德背娃太娘炮的Piers Morgan .
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Post by Jun » 2019-01-15 13:04

去随便狗了一下 R Kelly ,发现我在脑子里把他跟著名川粉 Kanye West 搞混了,反正他俩的音乐我都没听过。以前好像模糊听说过 Kelly 是个恋童癖,没想到搞的规模这么大。
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Post by 幻儿 » 2019-01-15 16:07

R Kelly 我都没听说过,但是作为Lady Gaga脑残粉,看到了她写的长文,关于R Kelly的,不但说不再合作了,而且语气还蛮恳切的。

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Post by 幻儿 » 2019-01-15 16:08

另外好像页面改版了是吗?还是只有我这里是这样?

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Post by 豪情 » 2019-01-15 16:29

升级了有点变化。
我像镂空纱, 全是缺点组成。

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Post by Knowing » 2019-01-16 2:10

I Believe I Can Fly ?R Kelly的歌你肯定听过,他自己hits 很多, 也给别的歌手写. 红了好几十年. 现在都是streaming 也好,以前要从一张旧唱片上抽掉一首歌简直不可能.

我这两天陆续看了些报道. 好恐怖. Cycle of Sexual Abuse Continues。

R Kelly 九岁时就被大六岁的亲姐姐性侵. 他弟弟Carey Kelly 也是受害人, 现在哽咽的述说当年的经历. 当时 Carey不知道R kelly 同样是受害人. 试探的告诉他, 说我们应不应该告诉妈妈. R Kelly 说你干嘛编这种话, 不信. Carey 就想他都不信, 妈妈也不会相信的.于是闭嘴没跟任何人说.

R Kelly 成名后经常去自己上学的中学校门口麦当劳捡少女. 去mall 里逛捡姑娘. 向身边伴舞伴唱的小侄女下手. 他不像纯粹恋童癖, 喜欢的不是八九岁的幼女, 多是已经发育的十四五的少女, 容易灌输控制。性丑闻录像带里他和十四岁少女性交, 少女的老师,阿姨, 熟人,都指认是她, 但是少女本人和父母拒绝出庭作证, 陪审团认为无法定罪. 之后他比较谨慎的泡年纪大一点,十七八九甚至二十多岁的女性. 喜欢控制身边的女性. 对她们一开始非常温柔, 这几个控诉的女性(包括前妻)小时候都有目击家暴甚至自己被虐待的历史, R Kelly 温柔的照料她, 对她如公主, 给她卡随便买买买, 说爱她, 她对他是特别的, 打开心扉倾吐自己也有被性虐史. 女友搬进来同居就开始各种控制, 不准跟男性工作人员说话,控制穿什么衣服, 必须随时发短信给他报告行踪, 甚至吃饭如厕都要请求许可. 然后开始物理暴力惩罚, 不给吃饭, 然后引入其他女性.... 听下来简直是虐待教科书.

他前妻和另一个前女友鼓起勇气离开他都是因为孩子。 前妻一度要自杀, 爬到阳台铁栏上往下看, 幻想自己躺在血泊中, 女儿哭着说妈妈你为什么跳? 她想如果都肯离开孩子不管了, 还不如带着孩子离开他. 而且女儿开始质问父亲为什么这样对母亲了. 如果以后女儿也被虐待,她对女儿怎么说? 女儿会说你这么多年都不离开父亲, 我为什么要离开. 于是她离婚, 为了打破这个Cycle of Sexual Abuse 。
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Post by Jun » 2019-01-19 10:09

差不多一两个星期之前,US Figure Skating 组织和独立调查体育abuse控诉的 Safe Sport 组织宣布调查双人滑前选手/现教练/转播评论员 John Coughlin ,具体没说对他的控诉是什么。然后前两天,在2019年全美锦标赛开始之前,USFS 宣布调查升级,有多个人对 Coughlin 提出指控,暂时禁止他参加一切比赛(他有带学生去全美)。

昨天晚上他自杀了。花样滑冰是一个很小的圈子,现在立场四分五裂,有些人与 Coughlin 有旧交情,很气愤,认为他是被冤枉及逼死的;另一些人则认为如果他是“畏罪自杀”就不值得同情。还有一些人不知道说什么好。

Coughlin 曾经在圈内非常有人缘,还当过运动员代表。我只能说真没想到。
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Post by Knowing » 2019-01-21 3:52

悲剧。体操医生Larry Nasser 情况有些类似,也是素有好人的名声,特别热心友善,所以多年多人的指控都被压下去,最初曝光时很多人不相信。
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Post by april » 2019-04-15 18:46

MIT那个主持编辑黑洞照片的女博士在网上被一帮bro-programmer诋毁的事情大家有没有听说?
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Re: zz: Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber

Post by Jun » 2019-04-16 10:19

女性科学家要多学学 James Watson 的人生态度。

不能同意此推的第二条,不能因为男性围观者的嫉妒导致的言论攻击就少说话,反而更要多吹嘘自己才能有改变。

If I have learned anything on Twitter, it is the impossibility of making everyone like, or at least not hate, you. Literally anyone is hated by someone.
Wonderful things can happen when you sew the seeds of distrust in a garden of assholes.
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Post by april » 2019-04-16 11:12

Jun wrote:
2019-04-16 10:19
不能同意此推的第二条,不能因为男性围观者的嫉妒导致的言论攻击就少说话,反而更要多吹嘘自己才能有改变。

If I have learned anything on Twitter, it is the impossibility of making everyone like, or at least not hate, you. Literally anyone is hated by someone.
同意!要不屈不挠循序渐进的抗争。
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